Patricia Louise Bowker-Haman, 75, passed away from Alzheimer’s Disease on January 31, 2019 in Phoenix, Arizona.
Pat was born January 6, 1944 in New York City to Florence Crandall Bowker and Willard Hughes Bowker, Jr. The oldest of four children, she grew up in the Los Angeles area, graduating from Dominguez High School in 1961. She and her two sisters, Peggy and Karen, studied Dance as teenagers, with Pat subsequently teaching ballet as well as performing as a ballet and ballroom dancer in several shows. Pat worked her way up in Retail, first as a buyer, which gave her the opportunity to travel to New York City quite often for business trips. Following her buying years, she became a department manager and subsequently an assistant store manager with May Company California. In 1978 she relocated to Phoenix, Arizona to manage Elizabeth Arden – The Salon, where she remained until its closure in 1989. She subsequently worked in Sales for Saks Fifth Avenue and I. Magnin, as well as in smaller art and home décor shops. It was at work at one of those shops when, through a coworker, she met Ron Haman who would become her husband. Fashion was her passion, as evidenced in the late 1980s when she was voted one of the “Best Dressed Women in Phoenix” by Arizona Trends Magazine. She also had a love of art, regularly visiting the Phoenix Art Museum. Her love of music never dwindled. She had an eclectic collection of albums and CDs which crossed all genres. It never took much to motivate Pat to sing or dance along. She was a member of The Franciscan Renewal Center (“The Casa”) Catholic Church for nearly three decades, having served in various volunteer capacities there for over 15 years. She loved dogs, owning several over the course of her life. The beauty of Camelback Mountain, saguaro trees, and the spectacular Arizona sunsets kept her quite content with living in the Phoenix area, however, she did enjoy traveling. In 1977 she traveled to England, and later in life visited Italy and France. Pat exercised regularly, always striving to be in shape. Some of her adventures included: downhill skiing, getting her scuba diving certification, hiking, and of course visiting the beach when in California. Pat was always a fighter, having survived a heart attack in 2001 as well as breast cancer in 2002. Despite her diagnosis of early-onset Alzheimer’s Disease in her early 60s, she kept a positive attitude and never lost hope.
Pat is survived by her husband of 18 years, Ronald Haman of Phoenix, her daughter Tiffany (Brad) Sperling of Florida, four grandchildren Harrison, Justin, Trevor, and Nolan Loch, brother Bill Bowker of California, sister Margaret (John) Masterson of Missouri, several nieces and nephews, and longtime family friend James Fagerberg of Prescott, Arizona. She was preceded in death by her parents, her sister Karen Bowker Malone, and a nephew.
A memorial service followed by a social hour will be held at 2pm on Saturday, February 16, at Whitney & Murphy Funeral Home, 4800 E. Indian School Road, Phoenix, AZ 85018. In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made in Pat’s name to Hospice of the Valley.
Your smile and grace will be missed in this world.
May God Bri ng comfort to your family until you all can meet again!
We must continue in the faith, established on the foundation and steadfast and not being shifted away form the hope of that good news.
Not always will the poor one be forgotten, nor will the hope of the meek ones ever perish. The kingdom is a real government, established in the heavens with Jesus Christ as Ruler. Soon, that Kingdom will replace human governments in the administration of human affairs.
I read of a man who stood to speak at a funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on the tombstone from the beginning… to the end.
He noted that first came the date of birth and spoke of the following date with tears, but he said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years.
For that dash represents all the time they spent alive on earth and now only those who loved them know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own, the cars… the house… the cash. What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard; are there things you’d like to change? For you never know how much time is left that still can be rearranged.
To be less quick to anger and show appreciation more and love the people in our lives like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile… remembering that this special dash might only last a little while.
So when your eulogy is being read, with your life’s actions to rehash, would you be proud of the things they say about how you lived your dash?
Pat was always smiling, pleasant and friendly. She had a kind heart, and was loved by all. I am sure she felt the love that she received and I for one feel privileged to have known her. RIP sweet Pat
S & J Rasmussen
Ron, so sorry about Pat …Only talked to her at a couple social events and she was very gracious. Our warmest condolences. Joy & Steen
Posey Moore Nash
Always a beautiful presence in the community.
May she be at peace.